Pinterest Rant

I need to rant for just a second here. This was going to be a facebook status, but it got too long.

I was on Pinterest this morning looking at the "women's fashion" pins. Someone had pinned a very beautiful diamond ring. The solitare looked to be about 1.5 carats and was flawless. It was set on 3 or 4 intersecting micro-pave set diamond bands that connected on the underside of the ring into a single band. And the caption was "I want a man who can buy me this someday."

Now, maybe I'm being too sensitive sally here, but really? That's what you want? How about a man who can express how he feels? How about a man who honors and cherishes you? A man who wants the same things as you do? A man who will make you laugh? A man who will stay faithful? A man who will respect you? A man who LOVES you? His ability or desire to buy you a $10,000 ring is what you want?!

There is nothing wrong with admiring or even wanting a beautiful ring. If money were no object in my life or in my dream proposal scenario, you can bet that I know exactly what vintage, 1 carat, cushion cut, halo set ring I want. In front of my closest family and friends, while my mom bawls like a baby, even though she knew it was coming because he asked my dad for his blessing weeks ago. What? I like shiny things, okay? I am a girl afterall.

But you know what? My dream is just that. A dream. What I really want is to meet a beautiful human being that I can build a life with. And I don't care if we are middle class our entire lives. And I actually would love to have a ring made from simulated diamonds because then I know that no one died so that I could have real diamonds in my engagement and wedding rings. And I don't need some flash mob of a proposal production. Two of my friends got engaged, literally amidst a pile of moving boxes before they moved to a new State. One friend got engaged when she came home from work after a bad day and her now fiance decided to scrap his plan and he asked her before they even went out for dinner that night.

Call me old-fashioned (ha, that's a laugh), but I like to think that when you find the right person, the ring, the proposal, those things don't matter. As long as it's done with those two people in mind and done from the heart, nothing else should matter. Let's stop this voracious consumerism and instead focus on building full and lasting relationships.